We Believe...

..that the solution to inequality, pain, suffering, and lack in the world is ‘those that have’ sharing willingly from the heart with ‘those that have not’ who are sick and/or needy.

Warm clothing and bedding for babies, quilts for the aged or ill, books for the disadvantaged, essentials and household goods for those who have lost everything in floods, house fires, or due to job loss; these are just some of the need we assist with. You can help.


Why do you do charity work? To help others? To ‘be a good Christian’?


Dear little baby, born this day - may God be with you all the way.

Being a ‘good’ Christian.  What does that mean to you?  That’s the opinion that matters to the face in the mirror.

There are quite a few people who don’t go to church anymore because they were offended by their brothers and sisters who went there.

The bible says not to offend and not to be offended. Easier said than done when our emotions kick in.  I’ve been horribly offended, too, and wanted the perpetrators nailed to the cross for the pain they inflicted.  It wasn’t right, it wasn’t fair, it was unjustified – oh ya, I could really rant on in what I saw as a justified position as a victim.

Then I realized that I wasn’t a victim.  I had become the sinner by refusing to forgive and wanting ‘justice’ – lets call it what is really was – I wanted revenge.  Oy!  Put an entirely different light on things.

Being a good Christian – and loving God enough to obey him – I took a hard look at MY behavior and realized I needed to stop playing the ‘blame game’ and justifying my non-attendance on others.  I humbled myself, forgave the perpetrators (never having received an apology or even seeing any change in their behavior) and found peace.

I now attend church for the right reason (in my eyes) and that is to worship God.  Church is not a social club. You don’t primarily go because of mortal friendships but you are supposed to mainly go because of eternal and spiritual friendship with your Heavenly Father and your brother Jesus Christ.  It isn’t the “Church of Sally” or the “Church of Ron” – its the “Church of God” and while mortal friendships are beneficial and supportive, it is best to realize that the true purpose of church is to connect with your Creator – the one who loves and supports you the best.

Going to church allows you to strengthen your testimony and faith in God.  If you can’t humble yourselves enough to forgive and going to church is counterproductive, then fine – stay away and struggle on your own for a while.  However, if you can rise above the pain and misery inflicted on you by others, so you can once again enjoy basking in Gods love with others – please do go to church. Seek out and find a church that meshes with your concept of God, find one that brings peace to your soul. When you find that wonderful place – then you can reach out to others who are hurting, like you are now hurting, and bring them into your circle of love to shelter, care for, and support.

The Bible tells us to become strong first – then reach out.  If we are weak and hurting, instead of helping others, we could be dragging them down as we spew anger, frustration and pain all over their life – making it harder for them, instead of being a blessing for them.

Life is a journey, not a destination right now.  We live each day at a time, one footstep at a time.  Most days we move forward, some days we are backsliding, but we are always going from day to day, moment to moment and praying for help so that it can be forward motion.

Let go of the insult, the anger, the indignation, the frustration – all the negative emotions associated with what is holding you back.  You don’t have time or energy for it, life is short and time is fleeting.  When you do that, life gets into clearer focus and it is not as hard.

What really gets our life in focus is dealing with challenges, and sometimes other’s challenges can make us very grateful that our similar challenges in the past are over and we can now help others out who are in the same situation we were that hurt so badly.

Before I start to cry again so badly I can’t see the sewing machine, I am going to get off the computer and back to sewing burial gowns.  I have such a hard time making them.  I lost 3 children and while God has made the loss bearable, it still stings enough to make it very hard to sew the tiny gowns and bonnets for babies whose parents never got the chance to say a decent hello before they had to say goodbye.

Please, dear friends, forget your own pain today and soften the blow for others.  Speak kindly, wisely and comfortingly.  There are others all around you who are drowning in sorrow.  they show it in different ways – some of the evidence of pain is negative – striking out, saying or doing not nice things.  Find those people and be a blessing to them. Sew a burial gown, bake a batch of muffins to feed their body as your hug feeds their soul.  Give them a hug, Take them to the doctor or shopping for groceries, if thats what they need.

Listen to those who are in need of help without criticizing or even speaking if they need to unload, but most of all – listen to your Heavenly Father who loves you. He needs you most of all as the greatest blessings from heaven usually flow through hands that serve Him here below.

Off to do what has to be done now….pray for me, it’s very very very very hard.  (If you need me, I’ll be there.  That’s what being a ‘good Christian’ means to me, listening to my Heavenly Father and reaching out to help others as He helps me. )

Soft hugs
Carol Green

(Note – this post is introspective.  It is not a rant on religion but sharing why we do the things we do at Relief Share. )  We would love to hear from you on your perspective of charity work.  Email us at




I learned from Yury Mintskovsky that doing charity work should be something special about sharing your experience to others and help them to learn new thing that can help them in the future.

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